A Father's Legacy

“Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me” (John 14:1, NLT).

I just love the picture of a father holding his precious ones in His arms. There is so much love in His embrace. In His arms we are found whole.


No matter what the problems of the day, all we need is to surrender and go running into the arms of Jesus. He is the one who helps us lead a Father’s legacy.

I downloaded A Father’s Legacy: Twelve Important Things I Learned from My Dad by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, one of my favorite authors. I hope it encourages you this week to draw near to the Lord and find your portion. He is our inheritance!

1. Take God seriously. It will be well with those who fear God (Eccles. 8:12)

2. Start your day with God. He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught. (Isa. 50:4 NIV)

3. Trust and obey. Rest in and surrender to the sovereignty of God. For I know that the Lord is great, and that our Lord is above all gods (Psalm 135:5)

4. Little things matter–a lot. The choices you make today will have consequences. Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that he will also reap. (Gal. 6:7)

5. You aren’t responsible for what others say or do to you; you are only responsible for how you respond to them. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself. (Ezek. 18:20b)

6. Ask for advice; listen to godly counsel. Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days (Prov. 19:20 NKJV)

7. Guard your heart. Be intentional and wise about what you feed into your mind. Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life. (Prov. 4:23 NKJV)

8. Marriage is for keeps–don’t settle for less than God’s best. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Gen. 2:24)

9. Don’t spend your life–invest it. One day we will give account for how we managed the resources God entrusted to us-time, talent, treasure, and opportunities. Who then is the faithful and wise servant, whom his mater has set over his household, to give them food at the proper time? Blessed is that servant whom his master will find so doing when he comes. (Matt 24:45-46)

10. You can’t out-give God. Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce. (Prov. 3:9)

11. Look for opportunities to share Christ with others. I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me–the task of testifying to the gospel of God’s grace. (Acts 20:24)

12. Time is short; eternity is long. Make your life count for eternity. It is required of stewards that they be found trustworthy…For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ. (1 Cor. 4:2; 2 Cor. 5:10)

(c) 2009 by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Dear Jesus,

Thank You for Your Father’s love and for serving us so selflessly. There’s nothing we could ever do to repay back the debt you paid at Calvary. Help us to be good children, and serve our earthly parents with dignity and respect they are due. Amen.

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Facebook official

[Why my relationship is more important than a Facebook status or being Facebook official.]

“So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless” (James 2:17, NLT).

I think it’s the coolest thing that I started dating Marc the week I started editing my book on dating and relationships [to be released January, 2012 with Harvest House].

My editor, Kathleen, sent me back a TWENTY-THREE page Word document pertaining to my book, how she perceived it, and many (MANY) takeaway points of how I can make it the best book ever!

At first, I was humbled.

Then I was excited.

And then I was overwhelmed.

Back to Marc…

I can’t believe that in all my prayers for a relationship. Wanting. Pleading. Begging to be in a godly relationship could and would actually come true. Not just come true, but happen at the RIPE time.

The words below were written to me from a friend back in 2003 after my last serious relationship ended (that’s EIGHT years ago). She said something that still rings true today:

Your actions speak your heart. Your heart is not fully with me the lover of your soul. I miss you and desperately want you to myself, and you are looking elsewhere. This will not lead you to the full joy I want you to have. (Insert your name here) keep your faith in me, that I will bring you the desires of your heart. Stand strong and do not look to men. I will bring you the one, and how sweet will it be if you remain pure and focused on me until then.

Do not be hindered by your flesh, for your flesh wants pleasure now. But now is not the time, not yet.

Do not be angry because when that day comes, you will be pleased beyond comprehension.

Wait for him and do not search for him for when the time is ripe you will know–I will tell you.

When you give this to me I will give you peace, but when attacks of the flesh come–flee for the peace I have, which comes when you trust in me and wait for the proper timing–the time, when it comes, will be so amazing so please wait for this wonderful gift! I love you!

Eight years later the phrase “when the time is ripe” still haunts me in my sleep, in my waking up, in going about my business.

This past year when God had me choose the value of “fruitful” for 2011 I had only hoped. No-dreamed it would come true! Following up last year’s value of “Intimacy” and the year I spent with God and the invaluable lessons I learned. Priceless.

So here I am enjoying the company of a godly man who loves Christ and loves others. It’s truly a wonderful gift and I’m so glad I waited.

Back to Facebook

So many times I’ve seen relationships rise and fall on the Facebook wall (See the movie Catfish for a crazy portrayal of this very subject).

Suddenly someone who was “single” is now “in a relationship” or worse–the “it’s complicated!” I’m not judging, but you can usually figure out where that’s going!

Last year I briefly dated someone for a few weeks and sadly I was interested more in what people had to say and how they perceived my “relationship status” that I made it Facebook official within seconds of him asking me to be his girlfriend.

Before I talked to God.

Before I consulted my best friends.

Before. Before. Before.

After I realized that we had the compatibility of a field mouse (what??) it was over. And the damage done on cleaning up my “image” on Facebook again became more important than the actual relationship itself.

Skip to now…

I am proud to say that I lasted almost a month before saying ANYTHING on Facebook. And if anyone knows me–that’s pretty good. Because I am a processor, writer, encourager, speaker, WHATEVER everything I do is usually NOT done in private.

When God tells me to shout from the mountain tops, publish his glorious deeds, or encourage someone I DO IT!!!

But what you didn’t see was the time spent in the Word, with friends, and most of all–Marc himself!

I’ve enjoyed that precious time getting to know him one on one and I’m still enjoying our time. It only gets better with time!!!

Back to editing…

When I started writing my first book, “Faithbook of Jesus” I had NO idea the trials and spiritual warfare that I would face. Not only was it HARDER, but more challenging than I ever would have imagined. So much so that I quit my job and went into full time ministry in the worst economic recession ever. And you know what? God blessed my obedience.

I can’t thank God enough. I shutter in obedience when he not only asks me to write words but HE MAKES ME LIVE THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

So much harder.

So here I am writing this book on dating and relationships and everything I’m processing from the TWENTY-THREE page Word document of the changes my editor wants me to make I’m living–like RIGHT now!

If you’re single…

If you’re single or in a relationship consider the source. Where do all blessings come from? And who has the power to take them away?

My mentor, Pam Farrel, gave me a bobbing head turtle when I graduated from her Circle of Influence (a mentor program for first time authors). The question she asks us is “how did the turtle get on the fence post?” SOMEBODY PLACED IT THERE.

The only official thing we should be truly concerned with is the power of God. He has the power to ELEVATE us and HUMBLE us. The choice is ours. Will you be found waiting [OBEDIENT]?

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Deal breakers in Dating

I posed a question today on Twitter: “For a ‘Christian’ single what should be the top two deal-breakers?” and got plenty of responses. Which leads me to a list I found and had saved for at least five years. My deal breakers in dating was was hidden in one of my journals and thought it would be a great list for you to print and save for your own personal records!

1. Clear-cut vision (Prov. 29:18; Hab. 2:2-3)

2. Teachable spirit (Prov. 3:11-12; Prov. 1:5-7)

3. Under authority (Rom. 13:1-5; Luke 7:6-10)

4. Leader (Eph. 5:22-23; Prov. 31:23)

5. Same beliefs (Amos 3:3) – this one’s circled REALLY big!!!!

6. Clear Conscience (Ecc. 11:9; Rom. 13:5; 1 Tim. 3:8-9; 1 Pet. 3:15-17)

7. Sense of Humor (Prov. 17:22)

8. Good with Children (Ps. 127:3-5; Matt. 18:2-6)

9. Financially Free (Rom. 13:7-8)

10. Prayer Warrior (Jam. 5:16)

Happy Bible verse hunting.

Incidentally, what’s on your list and why?

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10 Things I Hate About You

My favorite movie from high school days is 10 Things I Hate About You.

This morning, I was reading about accountability in the book, “Woman of Confidence” by Pam Farrel. Not only is she my mentor, but she’s also a family friend. She has taught by example and shown through her actions over the past 15+ years of ministry that she can be trusted. She exudes confidence.

I know if I were to ask her to tell me her secret, she would point me back to the section in the book that I just read and tell me to ask these 11 questions to my girlfriends weekly.

“A woman of confidence needs to have an accountability partner–someone she can trust to be honest with her about her strengths and her weaknesses, someone who will encourage her in the hard times and rejoice in the good.”

Questions to Help You Fine-Tune Each Other

1. Have you talked with someone about Jesus this week?
2. Have you managed your time wisely?
3. Have you taken time to thank the Lord this week? Have you had your quiet times?
4. Have you had a good attitude toward your spouse and children this week? (N/A)
5. Have you said damaging things about another person, either behind their back or to their face?
6. Have you succumbed to a personal addiction?
7. Have you continued to remain angry toward another?
8. Have you fantasized a romantic relationship with someone other than your spouse or read or seen any sexual alluring material?
9. Have you lacked integrity in your financial dealings? Have you spent recklessly?
10. Have you secretly wished for another’s misfortune so that you might excel?
11. Have you been completely truthful with me just now?

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Don't Touch

“Don’t worry about the wicked or envy those who do wrong” (Psalm 37:1, NLT).

I just had the best week of my life.

I just moved my WHOLE life down to San Diego. In the matter of a few weeks it was decided, and I was gone.

I can’t believe God told me (1) to go to seminary (2) that I was going to see Him face-to-face and (3) move to San Diego.

My roommates are a dream.

My place is a dream.

Living one mile of the beach is a dream.

So much excitement for one person!!! First, I was like “I’m Never Going Back!” Then, I learned that “Faith is Dynamite.” After only one day here, I finally got to experience being “Called to the Altar.” Craziness, right?


I don’t know about you, but whenever I see a Wet Paint sign, I just want to touch it. My whole life I was taught “don’t touch.” Whether it was sin, food, temptation, or a boy–the response was always the same.

I’ll NEVER forget the day God gave me this verse from Psalm 37:1. I was working at a collections agency in North County and my co-worker had just asked me out for drinks after work. Bad idea. At least for me. I had no idea he was a creep. After being humiliated, I did not want the last guy I kissed to be a douchebag.

So I found someone else to flirt with, quick!

I stopped worrying about the wicked coworker, and envied the bad boy instead. I know what you’re thinking. Great move, right? All girls go for the bad boy. (If you’re living Psalm 37:1, you will…but enough of my soap box!)

He worked on the second floor of my building (not my coworker), and I would see him every day. Whenever I went walking on my breaks, I would see him outside smoking. (Gross).

It became this battle to see who could be the BIGGER narcissist. He was so into himself it wasn’t even funny. And I guess, so was I. (But I told myself I had a reason to be and that it was okay).

He knew he was good looking.

He drove a sweet car.

He had this ooh-so-oozing charm.


So much for don’t touch.

Maybe because it’s human nature to want to touch.

Maybe it’s because I grew up being told “NO!”

Maybe it’s because I just wanted to see if I could get the hottest guy in the building to make out with me.

Yes. Yes. And yes.

Don’t judge me. Okay? I know I’m not the only one who’s struggled. The enemy will make you believe that playing with temptation rocks, and to be honest it does…until you actually touch it.

It grips you.

Has a hold over you.

Guarding your heart becomes a thing of the past.

So why am I going in depth about this NOW? Because this weekend, God showed me that I was on the other side.

It was the coolest experience ever being able to talk about PURITY at the San Diego Salvation Army to a group of high school girls. The talk went really, really well. At the end girls were coming up to me and thanking me for sharing my story. How cool is that???

If I can do it; they can do it!


Don’t worry about the wicked
or envy those who do wrong.
For like grass, they soon fade away.
Like spring flowers, they soon wither.
Trust in the Lord and do good.
Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you your heart’s desires.

Commit everything you do to the Lord.
Trust him, and he will help you.
He will make your innocence radiate like the dawn,
and the justice of your cause will shine like the noonday sun.

Be still in the presence of the Lord,
and wait patiently for him to act (Psalm 37:1-7, NLT).

Dear Jesus,

Help us not to worry or envy, but trust You instead. Thank You that as we delight ourselves in You, You will bless those desires as we commit our ways to You. Amen.


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Called to the Altar

When I say the words: promise, dream, and destiny, what comes to mind?

Are you excited?

Are you afraid?

My gut reaction is JOY and lots of it. But if I think about it too long, my day dreams turn into fear and anxiety.

Why? Because this is me we’re talking about. I am fearfully [literally] and wonderfully made.

I’m not gonna lie, sometimes I don’t trust God with my emotions. I let them overcome me and I run.

I mean, I had waited and prayed for a church like this for three years. Don’t get me wrong, I love my church in North County – North Coast Church. It’s just that it’s mega!!! HUGE. Even if you’re serving and leading a small group [like I am], I could go to any service and maybe know three people max!!!

It was nice when I needed to rest for a while. But now that God’s been singling me out and making my heart burn for people again–I can’t hide! I must go.

So I went.

To All People’s Church in San Diego last Sunday. I couldn’t wait to finally go to a church that had time for prayer in the front.

I knew I felt called to the altar, and when I went up for prayer the words that were spoken over me made me ball my freakin‘ eyes out.

I mean, how did she know? [The Holy Spirit].

She prayed destiny.



“I was born to fly.”

She said that I’m in a waiting period.

God’s promises and dreams that He gave can be trusted. He won’t put me to shame!!

Rest in His intimacy.

Immanuel, God is with me.

God will fulfill His promises for me.

I felt this was appropriate to share because prayer is one of the greatest forms of communication we have with our Abba Father. Any time we’re excited or afraid we can run to Him with our arms stretched out and say “daddy daddy!”

“Our lives are in his hands,
and he keeps our feet from stumbling.
You have tested us, O God;
you have purified us like silver.
You captured us in your net
and laid the burden of slavery on our backs.
Then you put a leader over us.
We went through fire and flood,
but you brought us to a place of great abundance (Psalm 66:9-12, NLT).

Dear Abba Daddy,

The exciting part is moving. The hard part is waiting. God give us the strength to endure Your abundant blessings today.We boldly approach your throne to find the grace and confidence that we’ve been missing. Thanks for allowing us, your children to come to you and not be ashamed. Thank You for always taking care of our needs. We love you, we need you, we want you in our lives! Amen

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How to Hear from God

Hearing from God does not have to scare you.

Fear of the unknown.


What is it exactly?

Last week, I encouraged you in a bunch of reasons why I believe you should read your Bible this year.

This week, I want to show you how to hear from God.

Yes, sometimes it’s the pizza you ate last night, but chances are it’s a God-sized confirmation.

Here are some of the ways He speaks:

God speaks through His Word, prayer, wise council, dreams, and visions.

Want to know God’s will for your life?

Start seeking him.

Then keep seeking…

Matthew 7:7, NLT says, “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”

If you’re reading along in the One Year Bible with me then you would have caught this verse. The awesome thing about being in the Word C O N T I N U A L L Y is the source of strength it provides.

The Word is living.

It’s active.

Just like you and me.

Hebrews 4:12, NLT says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.”

Want to know how to hear from God? Resolve to read the Word this year.

Don’t let another year slip you by simply because you’re afraid of being


That’s part of growing and living and being in community.

Be vulnerable.

Like it or not.

Ultimately, it’s your choice to reveal part of yourself to your family and friends.

Why is it that it’s sometimes easier to let a stranger in on what’s going on in your life? Maybe it’s fear. Maybe you’re not yet confident in your relationship.

If it’s confirmation you’re seeking this year, I encourage you to stay in the Word, pray, and get in a Bible believing community where you can receive support, accountability, and encouragement you need.

Hebrews 10:25, NLT says, “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.”

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15 Reasons to Read the Bible

In 1997, my mom gave me a NLT One Year Bible. I was in the hospital with severe eczema all over my face and feet.

She read to me Hosea 6:1-3 that says,

“Come, let us return to the Lord. He has torn us to pieces; now he will heal us. He has injured us; now he will bandage our wounds. In just a short time he will restore us, so that we may live in his presence. Oh, that we might know the Lord! Let us press on to know him. He will respond to us as surely as the arrival of dawn or the coming of rains in early spring.”

I was determined to find my own verse so I read through the One Year Bible for eleven months and twenty six days later I found it.

“In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation” (1 Peter 5:10, NLT).

My life has never been the same since and I wholeheartedly believe in reading the Word daily. That’s why I do what I do. I write, speak, teach, publish, laugh, and love according to what I’ve learned through this book. 1997-2011 marks my crystal anniversary of being in the Word. That’s 15 years of being fruitful and remaining in the vine that is Jesus.

Because I’m SO passionate about it I’m giving you 15 reasons to read the Bible this year with me!!

1. Get to know Jesus. If you like someone you’re going to spend time & money getting to know them. It’s really that simple!

2. Be a follower. Disciple = follower. It’s not a spiritual term. You follow people on Twitter and Facebook, so why not be mindful to follow God FIRST?

3. Discipline takes time. Over the years I’ve discovered what works for me. Yearly devotional + One Year Bible + journal = a very happy Renee. Find what works best for you and stick with it!!

4. If you’re bored, God’s bored. I don’t remember who told me that, but it’s stuck with me. If you’re in the middle of reading your daily this & daily that and you find that you’ve replaced the ritual with religion. Get. Out. Quick. Find something else. Do something else. Go somewhere else. Ask someone else.

5. Don’t be afraid. Perfect love (from God) casts out all fear. Throughout a year’s time you and I will encounter trials and temptations. Watch for them and stay alert. Mostly though don’t be afraid. If you need help remembering this just open to Joshua 1. I think God says it like 8 times. Don’t be afraid…Don’t be afraid…just keep swimming…just keep swimming…

6. Ask. Just because you or I am in the Word daily doesn’t mean we still struggle. Ask for help!

7. Don’t do it alone. We need community. We need people. We need help. See if one of your friends or family can keep you accountable to spend your time daily with God. If you don’t tell others, they won’t know to ask.

8. Learn more! I’m like a sponge. I soak up everything I see, touch, taste, smell, read, etc. Here is a great way to spark learning in your life. Take a topic you read about in your daily quiet time and dig deeper.

9. Use helpful tools. My favorites are NLT One Year Bible, Streams in the Desert (devotional), My Utmost For His Highest (devotional), BibleGateway.com, You Version, and Logos.

10. Use your senses. The Bible actually says to taste and see what is good (Psalm 34:8). Food tastes good, your time with God should too!

11. Find your promise. There are a million (okay maybe not a million) promises. I like to treat my Bible as a text book and underline my favorite verses and write “Promise” up on the top margin to remind me of God’s promises.

12. Memorize Scripture. If you can quote your favorite movie, you can memorize Scripture. Just sayin’

13. Fall in love with God. No matter what you read, how difficult a passage is, or how frustrating it is to find time to spend with Him…He is worth it! All of it. All the marbles, all the money, everything in the world does not compare to Him!

14. His grace is enough. My heartache is knowing God, seeing that He can heal, and watching when He says no. Grace is figuring out that He is enough. No. Matter. What.

15. God is the Beginning and the End. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. That means that January 1-December 31st is all under His control.

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