Why I Chose to Marry Young

Devotional Diva Maggie Winterton Why I chose to marry young

I chose to marry young — at 19, to be exact.

As some of you may know, I am still pretty young – 22, to be exact.

There’s that Taylor Swift song “22,” but I don’t relate to it at all because I’m married and have been for 2 and a half years. I don’t know if you’ve heard that song, but here are a couple quick quotes:

Everything will be alright
If we just keep dancing like we’re 22

 

And

 

It feels like one of those nights
We won’t be sleeping

Nope, does not describe my life at 22 at all.

I do not dance anywhere, except I did dance at my wedding.

And YES, I will be sleeping because I have things to do tomorrow! Every day I have things to do!

I’m not complaing in any way. I love my life! I just think it’s comical how different my life is from this Taylor Swift song and actually, most of my peers’ lives.

When I wrote about How God Changed the Course of My life Completely, I told you about how supportive my now-husband Brandon was (and still is) and how we met.

But what I didn’t tell you then was how big of a role following my heart played.

Brandon and I have a fairy tale love story – with some major kinks thrown in.

We had a lot of opposition going up against us the whole time we were dating.

For one, I was in a horrible place mentally and physically in the beginning. I talked about this in that post I mentioned, but it really was a struggle. My mom knew that Brandon was the one for me because of how he stuck by me through it all.

I mean, I was in the mental health unit at the hospital (more than once) and he stayed with me. He supported me. He showed me love. I know that I was not able to show him the same kind of love at that time, just because I was going through so much.

And it was a shock to everyone around us when we started dating because Brandon is 7 and a half years older than me.

I don’t want to hide this last fact from you, but I don’t want to talk about it much right now either: Brandon is actually related to my ex who raped me.

But we got through all that stuff. I got better. Things were going great, and we were happy.

Then Brandon decided to join the Navy.

At first, we didn’t even consider getting married before his boot camp. But as we went through his recruitment process, marriage actually seemed like a pretty good idea.

I knew I loved Brandon and wanted to be with him forever. He said he always knew that I was “the one.”

It soon became clear that we did want to get married before Brandon would leave for basic training.

But I was so nervous about what my parents would say.

I felt like they would disapprove, because I was only 19 after all. Now-a-days, that is young.

It wasn’t like getting married so young was in their (or my) plans for my future.

I worked up the courage to talk to my mom about it first, and she eased my dad into the idea. They were accepting, more than I thought they would be. They supported us.

Brandon formally asked my dad for my hand in marriage in June, and a few days later he proposed to me. In November, we said our vows at my childhood church.

My mom said she felt the presence of Jesus so strongly during the ceremony.

We’ve been married 2 and a half years now, and things are working out for us. We’re happy. I see how God had these plans for me, and there’s no doubt in my mind that I was always supposed to be with Brandon.

I followed my heart and ended up with a great man. But getting married at a young age is not for everyone. Honestly, everyone’s situation will be different. When you find your mate is up to God.

I still get surprised reactions when people find out I’m 22 and married, let alone that I have been married for almost 3 years now. That’s okay, but I wish there wasn’t so much judgment.

It’s not just people who marry young – I know those who wait until their later 20’s or 30’s are judged too.

Bottom line is that everyone has a different path; Let’s get over expectations.

→M

8 comments on “Why I Chose to Marry Young”

  1. onome says:

    Hi Maggie,

    Why would anyone judge a woman for getting married at a very young age. I got married at 25 and my mum told me she got married at 18. The bible says the path of a just man is ordered by God. We all have different paths and if God chooses for you to start the path of marriage early I think it is for a reason. Maybe he wants you to fulfill an early purposes and be available for His use. Your happiness is important to Him and not what anyone things. Just be led.

  2. Sophia Reed says:

    I do not think it is bad getting married at a young age. I think it all depends on the person’s maturity. I have seen older women get married and have been extremely immature in their marriages. Age does not have anything to do with it, I think it goes more on God’s plans for you and the emotional maturity you have, not just chronological age.

  3. Jennifer says:

    Are all of your posts going to be about marriage? It would be nice to see other topics addressed.

    1. No, and in fact, they haven’t been. I may have spoken about marriage in many of my posts, the last two were specifically about marriage, but this one is not about marriage at all: http://www.devotionaldiva.com/2014/06/finding-peace-during-stress/

  4. Amanda Goff says:

    Thank you for sharing about your mental health issues. That takes courage. One of the things that we should learn as we go through trials is that WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME BOAT. The circumstances of our trials and pain may be different, but we all experience them. No one is exempt, no matter how we might mask our sin. The important thing is not the pain, but how God is glorified through our trials. James 1:2-4 says: My brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of any kind, consider it nothing but joy, because you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance; 4 and let endurance have its full effect, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking in nothing.

  5. Angel says:

    Thanks for sharing

  6. Angel says:

    How have you got to manage a lower leugae team, i really want to manage my home town team, but cant as i cant get the option as they are only ucl standard

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