Pursue A Dream

pursue a dream

[Guest Post by Alexandrea J. Wilson. When I met Alexandrea through social media I wasn’t expecting to find such a warm-hearted person. She seriously exudes (is that a word?) self-confidence and passion (my kind of girl). I hope you’ll welcome her once again as she shares about which dream to pursue.]

I have a confession. Sometimes I can feel really lost.

I mean totally and completely lost.

Not the lost where you need to turn on the GPS to find out how to get where you’re going. I mean the lost where I have so many passions, so many ideas, so many questions, so many desires that I don’t know where to go.

I’m currently in my final year of graduate school-not exactly on the schedule I originally planned but on the schedule I planned after plan A, B, C, and D fell apart.

As my years of being a student are coming to an end, I found myself doubting every choice to get me to this point.

I didn’t expect to feel like I made a mistake with my degree.

I didn’t expect to start to truly wonder, “do I really want to be a counselor for the rest of my life? Or even for the next few years-and that’s it?”

I started to panic because those were questions I was really not prepared to ask myself and was very afraid to answer.

I mean, I’m in my final year of GRAD school–you don’t exactly quit what you thought you loved to pursue something else. So I continued my course work like normal and figured the thoughts would go away, but they didn’t.

Things actually got worse.

So I prayed. I prayed for God to show me what my passions were, help me choose a path, give me comfort and peace as to what I should be doing. To help me identify my dreams because–to be honest–I wasn’t even sure I knew what they were.

I wasn’t sure which dreams I was inheriting from others and which dreams were my own.

So I reached out to people for encouragement.

I cried (a lot).

I totally ate a lot of chocolate (it’s my coping mechanism).

I wrote.

I prayed, and then I cried some more.

How can I pursue a dream when I don’t even know WHICH dream to pursue?

And then finally in a conversation with some very wise and strong women, I learned something: Pursue them all.

Experience is our greatest teacher and it is only when I begin to experiment with my dreams will I know which dreams to pursue.


Take classes in certain topics.

Talk to people who are in the same career path.

Get out there and look at all the options.

It’s okay.

We all have various passions, and it’s okay to have them.

Cultivate all of your desires. If you’re a stay at home mom who is in love with homemaking and your family but you also love to write and want to see if you can do that professionally–take a writing class, start a blog! Do it!

If you’re a nursing home administrator who also loves theater–take an acting class or try out for the community theater.

Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box, and do not be afraid to pursue the things that interest you.

Even if no one understands your interests.

Even if you feel it in your gut.

It takes courage to pursue your passions. To believe in your inner voice and trust in God’s ability to provide the wisdom and strength to listen to Him, and do what He asks. Trust Him. He will surely give you all the tools you need to be able to find how He wants to use you.

May you find peace and happiness you pursue a dream.

Alexandrea J. Wilson is the Director of The Mt. Ephraim Center, an online Christian ministry that focuses on helping people create the family and life they love.
Her passions include encouraging others and constantly talking with God about the future He has planned for her! You can find her blog at www.TMECenter.org, her facebook page at www.facebook.com/TMECenter and chat with her on Twitter at twitter.com/ajwilson412

[Picture: nicole.pierece.photography, Creative Commons]


  • Rach

    Thank you Alexandrea! That’s exactly how I feel lately and when I think about all of my passions I cry because I feel like I must choose only one and I don’t know which one God wants for me. Why would He give me so many and vastly different desires and goals if I could only choose one? I am passionate for neuroscience and would love to pursue a PhD AND MD professionally but after years of part time school and working in finance a future in accounting sounds more reasonable. But how do I do that when I take so much joy in cooking and would love to have my own restaurant. I’ve been searching for His will and his guidance while still continuing on in my education.

    • Alexandrea J.

      Hi Rach!!

      Girl, I totally understand your frustration! I DEFINITELY cried-what am I even saying-I STILL cry sometimes when I think of all the things I want to do and when I start to feel the pressure to choose something and yet I don’t know what to do. It’s definitely just mind blowing and emotionally draining and it just feels so exhausting!
      But recently, I was talking to my mother and she told me to start doing this-when I feel overwhelmed like that-just stop. And do nothing for a moment. Stop trying to figure it out and plan ahead, just stop. Breathe and once you quiet your mind…choose one thing at a time and just move towards that-for now.

      So here’s what I would say this could look like…this is just one example…since you’re interested in neuroscience (which wow! Right on girl! That’s awesome!)-check out the different programs that are available. Only check! Don’t plan to choose something today or to even choose if you’re going to pursue it or not-just look. That’s you’re only task. Look at different schools, check out the classes and see are they of any real interest to you. Notice your feelings about it-are you excited? Do you feel like God is saying, “Rach….doesn’t this look cool?” Pay attention to your responses to the different programs and classes and just see what’s out there.

      Then after a couple of days of searching on that (or whatever time frame you choose), look into restaurants….check out books on “how to start a restaurant” (which I do know there are actually books with that exact title! I just saw one at Barnes and Noble! :)) and just see. Again, you’re not planning or anything-you’re just looking and praying and noticing your emotions/responses and what you believe God is telling you.

      You may find that your desire may steer you into it even though you feel it makes more sense to go into accounting.
      I have found, for myself, that God doesn’t always do what seems very logical to us. BELIEVE me. When I wrote this, I was almost in an ENTIRELY different career path than where I am now and girl! If I got into THAT story to explain it all, you would be like WHAT?! HOW DID YOU GET THERE! lol But I tell you-God doesn’t always move in ways that seem to make more sense to us. And you know what? Every time that He does that AND I trust Him and obediently follow His lead-I am HAPPIER and more at PEACE with myself AND my passions.
      I’ll be praying for you truly, I wrote you down in my book because I know how frustrating it can be. If you ever need a reminder of encouragement or just a girl who can say, “I understand!” talk to me on twitter at @ajwilson412 and I can send you my email as well! 🙂

      And also, just another little thing I have to say-I know this is long but I just-your comment REALLY resonated with me because it sounds EXACTLY like me….so I want to give you all I have on this topic. 🙂

      I am finding that God truly connects these passions into one large thing if we are willing to notice the connection. It’s like life is a puzzle…at the beginning it seems like things couldn’t POSSIBLY fit together…there are way too many pieces but then somehow-at some point-God reveals to you that they CAN be connected if you allow HIM to actually fix the puzzle. He’s the only one who TRULY can since He’s the only one that can see the full thing. You may find that in your future you do open up a restaurant and you get to use your passion of cooking but you also have to utilize your financing and accounting skills in order to keep the business running and your knowledge or interest in neuroscience allows you to then understand how different types of food affect the way we think and feel and so you particularly offer certain types of food with that knowledge in mind. You know what I mean? And that’s just an idea, who knows what God has in mind when it’s time to connect it all-but if you continue to pursue God and pursue your dreams, experiment and TRY it all and be WILLING and brave enough to consistently trust God-even if you’re crying through it-He WILL put your puzzle together and it will look amazing and beautiful and you will TRULY feel a sense of relief and JOY that you stayed faithful even when it all seemed so confusing. 🙂 *hugs* DON’T GIVE UP GIRL! 🙂

  • Elise Daly Parker

    Just exactly what I needed to hear when I needed to hear (read) it. I do lots of different things that all have to do with sharing/writing/editing stories. It’s a lot sometimes, though I enjoy all of it. So I’m asking God to please help me hone my skills and focus as I move forward, I’m sure He will. Blessings!

    • Alexandrea J.

      Elise I am so grateful to read your comment and I am even happier that this was timely! God knows exactly what we need-when we need it and I am just grateful that He supplies lessons and encouragement just like this for when we need it! 🙂 I think you’re on the right path when you’re asking God to help you hone your skills. He truly will and He will help you narrow down what He needs you to do AND what will make YOU happier. 🙂 You may even find that in some ways, he even broadens your ideas further than you thought! 🙂 lol But whatever may be, if you continue to pray for clarity, direction, discernment and PEACE-God will certainly be beside you as you identify what is best for you and Him! 🙂 *hugs* THANK YOU for your comment! 🙂