Why Not Pursue Him?


[Guest Post by Paula Hendricks – I met her many years ago at the True Woman Conference in Chicago, IL. We were roommies and it was fun to meet her when I published my first book, and now years later it’s my turn to return the favor. Please welcome my friend Paula!]

Ever been tempted to force your fairy tale? Yea, me, too.

On those days when I’m tempted to act like a beggar or an orphan (instead of an adopted daughter of the King of Kings!), here are four truths I often come back to. I pray they spare you the frustration and heartache I’ve experienced along the way.

1. You are already loved completely and unconditionally. 

You no longer have to fight for attention or find your worth in a boyfriend. Listen to how deeply—and how long—the King has loved you:

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness” (Jer. 31:3).

2. You don’t know what is best for you, but God does.

Have you ever set your sights on a guy only to realize later he’s totally wrong for you? I’ve done that more times than I care to count. That’s because:

“Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way” (Prov. 19:2).

God, unlike us, knows everything. Including the hearts of all guys (1 Kings 8:39b). You can trust Him to lead and protect you, His daughter, even when you don’t realize you need protecting.

3. You’re not actually waiting on a guy to pursue you—you’re waiting on God.

Whenever you’re frustrated over how long it’s taking a guy to notice you, remember that God is in control of everything:

“The king’s heart is in the hand of the Lord; he directs it wherever he pleases” (Prov. 21:1).

If the Lord can move the heart of the most powerful man in the land, He can turn any guy’s heart. Wait for His perfect timing.

4. God has nothing but good in store for those who wait on Him. 

You can rest easy. Psalm 25:3 says:

“None who wait for you shall be put to shame.”

That’s a fact you can count on from Your God who makes promises and keeps them. Of course, that doesn’t mean we’ll always get what we want when we want it. God tells us that in this world we will have trouble. But ultimately, in the end, He will work everything together for the good of those who love Him (Rom. 8:28).

Having said this, I feel like I should add the following disclaimer . . .

Trusting God with your love life doesn’t mean everything will work out beautifully, or that you’ll get what you want. God isn’t a formula. God is a Person—one who’s more interested in securing our forever happiness than our temporary happiness. Hard to believe, but as our Creator, He knows better than we do what will truly make us happy. And ultimately, the ache we’re looking to fill will never be satisfied by anyone or anything other than Him.

And with that said—why not pursue Him?

Paula HendricksPaula Hendricks lives in southwest Michigan where she no longer tries to catch guys’ attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. Instead, she blogs for teen girls and women by day and journals her adventures by night. She’s worked at Revive Our Hearts for nearly nine years (whew!), where she currently serves as Writing and Editorial Manager. Catch more of her writing at PaulaWrites.com.


confessions of a boy crazy girl*Adapted from Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom.

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