True Friendship

Sometimes the most holy and true act of friendship is to give up our rights.

Everybody wants to be King David.
Nobody wants to be Jonathan.

David didn’t manipulate Jonathan for an easy way in or deceive him for the biggest seat in the house. Why?

Jon was his friend.

David endured shame, ran for his life, and stole scraps for food to survive. He never once took revenge on Saul or his friend Jon to become king.

Everybody wants to be king.
Nobody wants to suffer.

Jon had it made. He was [already] royalty. He lived a life of luxury in the palace. Why did he give it all up willingly?

David was his friend.

Jon was almost killed by his father, King Saul, because he refused to step in front of or manipulate God’s will. He choose to serve instead.

Everybody wants to be first.
Nobody wants to be a servant.

There are people in your life that desperately need your friendship. The kind of friend that saves their life, keeps them out of danger, and watches their back. The kind of friend who’s even willing to risk their life for you.

“God uses those who have received His mercy to reach out to those who need His mercy. Unfortunately…those in need of God’s mercy can be the most difficult, hostile, ungodly people we will ever meet. Someone told us about God’s mercy. Now it’s our turn to share it with others.” (Ava Pennington, One Year Alone With God).

As Christians, we have a lot to learn about true friendship. Self sacrifice plays an important role.

“When someone invites you to dinner, don’t take the place of honor. Somebody more important than you might have been invited by the host. Then he’ll come and call out in front of everybody, ‘You’re in the wrong place. The place of honor belongs to this man.’ Red-faced, you’ll have to make your way to the very last table, the only place left” (Luke 14:8-9, MSG).

Everybody wants to go to heaven.
Nobody wants to die. ~David Crowder Band


  • Jason Wert

    “Everybody wants to be King David.  Nobody wants to be Jonathan.”

    This is deep well beyond the concept of friendship. 

    Talk to most Christians and they can tell you of King David.  They can share stories of David and Goliath or perhaps the things he did as King.

    Most Christians wouldn’t be able to even name Jonathan.

    I think that’s part of the reason everyone wants to be King Davis.  They see King David as significant.  As someone who made a difference.  As someone who was a leader.  As someone who could change the world.

    To be Jonathan to many Christians means you’re a nobody that no one is going to remember after they’re gone.

    Sorry if I’m getting too deep.  For some reason, this just resonated really deeply.

    • devotionaldiva

       Jason, it’s a pretty deep thought and I don’t take credit for it. It’s totally God who put that on my heart one day 🙂

      • Emily Miller

        I feel like that with a lot of the articles I write. I’ll go back and read them after they’re published, and I’ll be incredulous: “I wrote that?!” Because it will be exactly what I need to hear. So crazy how God can use our writing when we submit the pen (or keyboard!) to Him!

  • Katie McAleece

    This makes me smile, I’ve had this on my mind for a while now- true friends are humble, willing to serve, and always unselfish. That’s hard to come by and it’s also hard to pull off. It’s what the world needs, though. More people who are just honest, great friends.