New Theme For May: Broken Relationships and Breakups


This May I am introducing a new theme on broken relationships and breakups.

I also wrote a new eBook entitled Loves Me Not: Heartbreak & Healing God’s Way that releases on Amazon and Barnes & Noble TODAY for only 2.99!

Fisher COVER - Loves Me NotIf you’ve read Not Another Dating Book, you’ll notice I don’t talk about my story. That’s because it wasn’t until after I submitted my manuscript to Harvest House that I met my husband Marc.

That’s why I’m excited to release my follow up with features including:

+ Why Guarding Your Heart Isn’t Enough
+ Can Men and Women Be “Just Friends”?
+ Desperate Singles
+ Breaking Up With “The One”
+ Why Changing Your Significant Other Won’t Work
+ The Right Way To Breakup
+ How To Handle A Breakup
+ How To Be Your Own (Single) Person
+ Why Breakups Are Hard
+ He (Jesus) Loves You!
+ How I Met My Husband Marc

Below is an excerpt from Loves Me Not on why breakups are hard.

“Breakups sting because our hearts were never meant to experience heartbreak.

The tree Adam and Eve ate from is called The Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil (Genesis 3:5). It’s interesting that it wasn’t enough for them to know; they had to taste and experience this (good versus evil). I got this idea from Ray Bentley, my pastor, who shared recently just how crafty the enemy was.

Satan chose his words carefully while deceiving Adam and Eve (who took the first bite). They already knew God. It was through this close and personal fellowship with God that they talked about all things.

Even evil.

But it wasn’t enough for Adam and Eve to talk about the meaning of evil with God. They had to experience it for themselves.

That’s when sin entered the world.

It didn’t take long for heartbreak (sin) to take effect.

Soon Adam and Eve experienced loss. Cain, their first-born son, murdered their second-born son, Abel. Can you imagine the guilt they must have felt for disobeying God, yet also the experience of grace when Eve gave birth to Seth, their third child (Genesis 4:25)?

As you navigate the realm of relationships in your own life, I encourage you to ask God to give you the wisdom to choose each relationship wisely.

Proverbs 12:26 (NIV) says, “The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”

The hard part is letting God determine who is good.

That means no rebounds.

No one-night stands.

No more hiding.

Pursuing relationships peacefully and cautiously is a mandate designed by God for our protection. Instead of jumping from one relationship into another, choose your friends wisely—even the ones who help you overcome heartbreak.”

breakups2To enter to win a copy of Loves Me Not, simply leave a comment below, telling why YOU think breakups are so hard.

A winner will be chosen at random on May 10.

[Photos: Charlie.Paul, Flickr]


  • Kristy Caldo

    I’m excited for the theme this month! I think it’s so hard to breakup but hope is dashed and trust is broken. We get into these habits and ideas that this other person is completely trustworthy and that they will never hurt you. My problem is realizing who to trust and when.

  • Teryn O'Brien

    I’m excited to read this book, Renee!

    Hmm..why breakups are hard for me in the past is this reason:

    I used to just completely put my identity in a relationship/guy. Even when it was obviously not right and I didn’t have peace, I’d cling to it because I had placed all my worth and security and worship in the guy. Now, I’ve learned to be much more cautious when it comes to throwing all my hopes into something. God is the source of my identity and the One I should be worshiping. Not a man or relationship.

  • Miranda

    I am thrilled that there is a book on this topic! I could have used it last April when I made the toughest decision ever and broke things off with a man I was in a very serious dating relationship with(We had looked at engagements rings just wks before)

    I believe breaking up is so SO crazy hard is because it’s dashed hopes and dreams….extremely hard to move past the disappointments of it all…..the baggage that comes with a ‘past’… give my heart and affections to someone that didn’t end up being my husband…. to find rumors that just months later ‘He’s moved on’….. and of course the extreme pain,turmoil,confusion,ect that come from a disappointment like that are just heart wrenching themselves.

    OH, and as Renee mentioned below, SOUL TIES – those are huge and has been the hardest things for me to let go of as I was extremely close with Chris and he meant the world to me for so long. It’s also getting used to a new kind of normal that is rough .

    Yep, been a growing experience to say the least! I pray all of His Jesus girls would know how much we are loved, with or with out a man telling us that. My love to all His girls! <3

  • Kaid

    Excoted about this book, Renee!
    I think breakups are so heard because you’re not just losing a person, you’re losing the dreams and hopes and everything you’d hoped to accomplish with that person. You’re losing baby names and house plans, whispered outlines of what your forever would look like. You’re losing part of you, and that hurts.